I sometimes struggle with putting myself first.
It seems that if we do, we may be seen as selfish.
Funny word that 'selfish'.
Self .......... ish
The dictionary definition is: lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.
When I look at the Thesaurus alternatives, I'm faced with:
Egocentric, egotistic, egotistical, egomaniacal, self-centred, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-seeking, self-serving, wrapped up in oneself; inconsiderate, thoughtless, unthinking, uncaring, uncharitable; mean, miserly, grasping, greedy, mercenary, acquisitive, opportunistic; informal looking after number one.
My definition of selfish means 'focused on self' and certainly not all of those above.
Sometimes, just sometimes, we have to put ourselves first.
I am going to be itsy bitsy selfish this week as I take my holiday at home.
That means, saying no and putting myself first. Does that make me selfish?
Holidays aren't the only time I want to feel, rested, relaxed, nurtured, off radar.
I want to feel this way during the year too.
This past two years I have been calling in my core desired feelings - feelings that light me and and fill my boots. Thanks to Danielle LaPorte and The Desire Map (check her out here)
Creative, Connected, Affluent, Radiant, Energised, Sensual, Divine.
Here are my 5 Ways to create your Holiday at Home
1. Make the Decision, find the time and block it out
Look at your diary and find at least 5 days clear.
You need to plan for this time.
Mark it on the calendar,
Dedicate the time.
I can't tell you how huge it is when you block out the time and not plan anything that is work related.
2. Tell Family, Friends, Colleagues, Potential Clients and Those Who Ask ... You're on holiday. When they ask where? You say, 'At Home.'
It is very tempting to feel like you have to say yes to an appointment, a commitment or a work opportunity.
Imagine you're going away on holiday - you would decline.
You have to say the same.
"Oh, that week? I'm on holiday, can we reschedule for the week of ______________"
Whether you're taking 1 day, 2 or more, believe it, deserve it and let it sink in. Say it.
3. Create a holiday at home vision page. Somewhere you can see it. (I take a photo and save it as my desktop background and also have it on my phone wallpaper).
I created a page in my vision book called 'Decadence'. I used to do this when I was younger, only those times I'd call them mood books.
It nudged me to actually wake up and spend time finding out what I wanted for my holiday at home.
1. Think about the feeling you want to feel during your holiday time.
Is it relaxed, soothed, energised.
Cast your mind to previous holidays away - what feelings did they bring out in you?
2. Spend time with some magazines, scissors and glue stick.
Go with your gut instinct, just cut out what appeals and lights you up, even if you have no clue why. Just cut.
3. Spend time placing it on your pages.
Really look at these images, what is pulling you?
No Art Instinct needed here.
Just Gut instinct.
This is where it begins.
See what your soul is calling for your holiday at home.
4. Write down how the images make you feel.
Spend a little time looking at the page you have created.
Write down what those images and words mean to you?
I wrote mine and here's what I wrote from looking at my vision page:
All of this from my decadent vision page.
So go write down your feelings about your pages.
What are the images telling you?
5. Choose With Your Heart
When you look at your page and you have written out the feelings, you can begin to map out your week.
The list has to make you feel excited, energised, relaxed and recharged.
What can you weave into your holiday at home?
Visit your own city and find out what's on there.
I would love to hear what's on your list.